Swinger Lifestyles

The swingers lifestyle is commonly stereotyped as hedonist and devious. The truth is, a healthy couple can be part of the swinging lifestyle and still lead a normal life. Swinging is only part of what they typically do. If you wondered about what the lifestyle entails, here’s a brief guide.
What The Clubs Are
Media may portray swingers clubs as wild events with people having sex all over the place. This is not entirely true. For the most part, a swingers club resembles a night club. They usually have a good sized dance floor, music, a bar, and all the amenities you would expect at a night club. The difference being that admittance is limited to members, people dress provocatively, and there are rooms designated for adult play. So yes, there is sex. And some clubs can be a little on the wild side, but they aren’t the crazy frat style parties that the media makes them out to be.
Private Parties
Some people aren’t in to the club scene, and they choose to go to events instead. A private event is much more casual and much smaller than the club scene. These typically take place in open minded hotel establishments or personal homes. Most parties will only have a handful of couples, and most of them already know each other. This makes it easier to interact and play without anxiety.
STDs
Another common misconception is that swingers are dirty and carry higher rates of disease. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Swingers are safe and clean as a general rule. Clubs all have rules regarding safe sex, and will provide condoms. Private parties also encourage this. The rates of STDs among swingers are no higher than in the general population.

Even with in the swinging community there are many different variations. Some people prefer certain activities over others. There are advantages for both singles and couples.

Advantages for Singles

Singles enjoy the swinging lifestyle in a different way than couples do. They have the advantage of complete freedom. If they just want to hook up with one person, the option is there. They can also join couples in play, help fulfil bisexual or cuckolding fantasies, or just watch and enjoy the other festivities.

Advantages for Couples

Couples also have advantages when it comes to the swinging lifestyle. Instead of cheating, sexual fantasies and desires can be fulfilled with your partner in the comfort of an open environment. Couples can enjoy living out fantasies of swapping, cuckolding, group sex, and any other fantasy that they may have. As a couple they can choose to involve other couples or singles.

Who Benefits More?

Both singles and couples can benefit from the lifestyle. Both singles and couples are able to explore their sexuality with this lifestyle.  Singles can benefit from not having to deal with a commitment monogamous relationship, while couples benefit from having an open minded partner they can always rely on.

Couples tend to have more of an advantage as it’s easier for couples to get access to parties and club events. Most swingers clubs limit the number of singles that can attend. The cost is also typically higher for singles.

Making the decision to become a swinger isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. Entering the lifestyle will change many things about your relationship and your social activities. Breaking in to the community can also cause anxiety for many. There are some simple ways to make the transition easier. Here are a few suggestions.
Make a List
Sit down with your partner and discuss why you are drawn to the lifestyle. Come up with a list of things that you are comfortable with, would like to try, and what would be off limits. Many couples realize it’s not actually swinging that they want after this process, and it’s better to know before you jump in to it.
Start Virtually
Before you decide to go to your first swingers meeting in person, try to join a few communities online. Starting virtually will give you ample opportunity to find out what it’s all about. For the first few weeks you can just look around, read posts from other swingers, and become accustomed to the language and rules. After that you can start posting, introducing yourself, and asking questions, Swingers tend to be very open and understand that everyone is new at some point. You won’t be ridiculed for asking questions.
Start Slowly
When you decide to try out a swingers club or event, prepare to just hang out and watch. You don’t need to participate, and it will give you and your partner an opportunity to see how everything works. More importantly, it will allow you to come up with your own rules, or expand the ones you already have. Swingers clubs won’t pressure you to do anything you don’t want to do, and many even offer tutorials for beginners.